54 Practical Tips
For Dealing With
Psychopaths and Narcissists

If you have the theory but don't have the 'how to', then 54 Practical
Tips for Dealing with Psychopaths and Narcissists is for you!

So you get that you are in a bad relationship (or a cult). As soon as you realized you were dealing with a psychopath or narcissist you went looking for information. You searched the internet for information, you have probably read a couple of books; you have watched several videos and you are talking with friends to try and make sense of what is going on.

Are you at the stage where you feel like you have plenty of information now? You can see that the relationship is abusive. You know what it's like to be on the receiving end of it. You recognize how your story is similar to the stories of many others.

You may have been at this for months or even years. Many have been to therapy or counseling as well and while the therapist or counselor may have been supportive, it seems that they just don't fully grasp your situation and there is little or no solid practical advice for you.

And despite all this, you still have questions about how specifically to manage your situation...

• What do I do about it?
• How am I supposed to respond when he or she does x?
• How can I get out of this situation?
• What do I need to do to get him or her out of my head?
• How can I stop myself getting upset when I read the emails?
• What can I do to protect myself?
• How do I get closure?
• What do I do when they trigger me?
• How can I get rid of this fogginess in my mind?

 

So what do you get in the 54 Practical Tips For Dealing With Psychopaths and Narcissists?

Each tip is organized around a particular aspect of the relationship, whether the relationship is an intimate relationship or a cult. In order to be able to change things, it helps enormously to understand something about the motivations of the manipulators, the dynamics of the situation, and the effects of the techniques being used against you.

To this end, I give information about your situation, why the manipulators do things the way they do, their attitudes, what effect it has on you, how specifically they are manipulating normal human relationship patterns and so on. Understanding these things means that you can begin to see the patterns of abuse and how the manipulator is taking advantage.

Understanding the background makes it's easier for you to understand why the manipulators treat you the way they do. It also gives you a new framework for making sense of what is actually happening. Armed with this information, the things that you need to do, (or stop doing!) will be more obvious as well as easier to do because you understand why you are doing them.

Ok, I want to buy the 54 Practical Tips For Dealing
With Psychopaths and Narcissists now!

 

A word of caution ...

Although I am offering 54 Practical Tips for Dealing with Psychopaths and Narcissists, I do not suggest that you use these tips as a way to 'manage' a manipulator.

Nor do I suggest that you use them as a way to cope so that you can stay in the relationship.

I work on the basis that, with very few exceptions, a person in a relationship with a manipulator loses. The abuse, bad treatment and humiliation that one suffers at the hands of psychopaths and narcissists is not worth whatever benefits that may be considered to be present. In other words, whatever benefit you think may be there for you comes at an excessively high price.

Leaving the relationship should be priority number one. You cannot hope to fully recover from the damage while you are still in the relationship. And once you are out, you need to stay out. This is often very difficult because of the dependency of the pseudopersonality on the manipulator.

There may be other complicating factors, too, such as a divorce or the presence of children. However, there are ways to minimize the opportunities for the psychopath or narcissist to continue the manipulation and abuse and some of these are covered in the book.

Leaving a relationship with a psychopaths or a narcissist is the best thing you can do. I think that trying to manage them is a huge waste of your time and effort, and indeed, your life. They are much more devious and cruel than you could ever be and they have no motivation to change.

 

I've been there!

I'm David Mc Dermott and my desire to help others led me to qualify in medicine and I worked as a surgeon for several years.

I was caught by a manipulative woman in a destructive relationship and when she left I was left with no money, no house and a very disillusioned view of society because of the lack of legal or any other type of support available to people in my situation. Of course, I blamed myself, trying to figure out what I had done wrong.

Very shortly after, I was recruited into a personal development cult where they offered me a way out of the pain and suffering I was experiencing because of the failure of the marriage. I realize now that my caring nature was also used to entrap me.

I became the number 2 in the group, working closely with the leader in giving courses, mentoring others and basically recruiting new members.

After 10 years, I managed to leave. I had had enough of the lies, the money grabbing, and the very poor treatment at the hands of the leader. I realized that my own wants had been put to one side in favor of the group's idea of changing the world... which wasn't happening either!

Only after I left did I realize that I had been 'brainwashed' in a cult... and I began the process of undoing the mind control to fully recover...

 

Using this ebook 54 Practical Tips for Dealing with Psychopaths and Narcissists

These tips are best used as you are working your way out of the relationship and they will help you understand and make sense of what has been happening to you. That's why I provide information about how and why the manipulation techniques work.

I believe that the more you understand about the nature of mind control, the better. Once you understand what is going on, the easier it is for you to make the decision to get away, and stay away, from these types of people.

It's very important to understand the dynamics of the various situations in relationships if you are trying to manage toxic people. Much of the time, the unfortunate victim does not realize what is being done to them and they are unaware of the profound influence that the manipulator is exerting on them.

Having this knowledge is important for several reasons. It reduces the power the manipulator has when you can recognize the influence technique being used against you; only then do you have more options and coping strategies for the narcissistic abuse.

The book also explains why the change in behavior suggested is actually useful, how it fits into the overall scheme of things. And knowing why you need to act differently makes it easier to change what you have been doing. You are not just doing something because someone tells you to (You have done enough of that already!) but rather you are deliberately creating a way out of the messy situation you have been dragged into.

The tips are not in any specific order. I decided to do this even though some of the ideas are related because this way you get regular reminders of some ideas. And as we shall see, repetition is important.

Some of the tips are suggestions for how to act in certain situations; some tips are about how a change in thinking or a change in belief is necessary and some are organized around things that it is useful for you to stop doing. Others explain how to handle emotional manipulation. Either way, these tips have been useful for many others already and you will be able to put them into action straight away, too.

 

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A sample of 54 Practical Tips for Dealing with Psychopaths and Narcissists

Here are a couple of the tips for you so that you know what kind of things are inside...

Impossible tasks

It is usual in mind control environments that the psychopaths and narcissists set impossible tasks for those around them. This occurs in cults, intimate relationships, work situations and so on.

In cults for example, there are goals set for the members. Initially the leader will claim to be living his life according to the ideas of the group and will already have reached these goals. He/she sets himself or herself up as the ideal to be copied. This may be a life without sinning, always being happy or being in a particular state, a life dedicated to the service of others, negating the material for the spiritual, having a special relationship with God or any number of ideas.

Initially it is sold to the member as something they should aspire to and they make great attempts to achieve this goal. But then there are failures. The member can't quite get there. These failures are used to point out to the individual how he or she is weak, defective, not trying hard enough or that he or she is a failure. The individual is criticized and/or encouraged to put more effort into achieving the goals.

But, of course, the goals are impossible to achieve which guarantee more failures. Which means more criticism and/or encouragement. Which means the person is driven deeper and deeper into the thinking of the cult.

Likewise in intimate relationships, the psychopaths and narcissists expect all sorts of things from their suffering partners, many of which are unattainable.

The psychopath demands that the partner or child improve their attitude, but never indicates what a 'proper' attitude is. A narcissist insists that when he comes home from work the house is spotless, and if his wife does this for 7 days in a row, then they can have sex. Then on day 5 or 6, he finds a speck on a carpet and they have to start counting all over again.

Another manipulator wants food cooked to his specifications, but every meal there is something slightly off, not enough salt, too hot, too cold, not enough food, too much food, too wet, too dry.

It is common that the psychopaths and narcissists want to be taken care of in lots of ways but, no matter how much the victim tries, it is never enough. This 'never enough' is a frequent thought of those who are in intimate relationships with manipulators. No matter how hard they try, or how much they do, or how much they give of themselves, it's never enough. This is another impossible task. The more the psychopaths and narcissists get, the more they want and expect.

And in work situations, it is very easy for a boss to set their target subordinate up to fail. They can set unrealistic deadlines, withhold resources from the employee, deny them access to information, keep them busy with so many projects that they cannot hope to finish any one of them, and so on.

The difficulty is that when a person is initially 'caught' by the psychopaths and narcissists, these goals don't seem unreasonable. Very often at the start it is actually almost energizing for the victim to set out and aim for these new and exciting targets. But after a while, the victim begins to realize that they are not so easy to attain, and because of the nature of mind control, the victim comes to believe that they themselves are the problem. If only they were smarter, harder working, applied themselves more, things might be different. This particular phase can go on for years!

Dealing with such a situation requires some critical thinking, which again, is something that is not so easy when under the influence of mind control.

What exactly is the goal?

As best as you can you need a reality check. Is this goal actually achievable? Would other people outside the situation think that this is a worthwhile goal?

What changes have I experienced that indicate that I am actually closer to achieving this goal? These have to be measurable, and not things like, 'my relationships are better' or 'my communication has improved'.

Another important consideration is whether there is a time limit within which you should have reached the goal. Manipulators will not give a limit, but rather offer that the 'goal' is a thing you will spend your lifetime going after.

And how will you know when you have achieved it? There has to be tangible evidence that is obvious to anyone, for example, a certain amount of money in the bank, you can run a mile in 6 minutes or you have lost 10 pounds. These are all measurable evidences.

'When the boss/leader/spouse says so' is not acceptable! Neither is 'I will feel right/good about it'.

These things are not measurable but are frequently what the psychopaths and narcissists use as measurements, because it means they can keep moving the goal posts.

 

How to read emails

Psychopaths and narcissists take every opportunity to manipulate, control, abuse and generally run you down. This includes the sending of emails.

When you receive an email from the psychopath or narcissist, do you instantly feel dread and fear? You would prefer not to have even seen that one has arrived, but you can't help it, you have to read it now to find out what's going on…

So you end up quickly reading over it and yes, it's bad. It's very upsetting, and you know that you are going to be upset for some time…

If this sounds familiar, a very useful exercise when you receive an email is to not scan it. Do not have a quick peek and do not read it from start to finish.

Instead, read it one line at a time. Read the first line, then stop.

You can do this in any way you like, for example, you can cover the screen so that you can only see one line at a time, or you can print it out and do the same thing, or you can have a friend or family member read the email to you, but only one line at a time.

When you have read the first line, have a think about it. Is it true? Is s/he making up stuff about you? Is s/he distorting the facts? Are you being accused of something that he or she is actually doing?

When you have adequately considered the first line, read the second. Then examine that.

Take your time.

Go line by line until you have read the whole thing.

An email from a psychopath or narcissist is often written to deliberately upset you. They will accuse you of stuff, use derogatory language, press your hot buttons, distort information to make you seem like you are the one who is mad, bad or sad, and generally try and get you emotionally wound up.

If you read the whole email quickly, it's often the case that there is so much abuse being hurled at you, that you won't be able to stop the torrent of emotions that follows.

An outsider may read the email and say that it doesn't seem that bad. But you recognize that there is a certain tone to it, or certain words or phrases used, or a manner of being calm or pleasant, and that these things are deliberately designed to upset you (because they have been used in the past to needle you). And even though you recognize these things, the sheer amount of them overwhelms you.

So the trick is to break the email down into much smaller pieces and deal with each individual piece before moving onto the next one. This way there is no avalanche of information to deal with and when you can see what he or she is doing in each sentence, it becomes so much easier to deal with.

The manipulator no longer achieves the result s/he is going for - your being an emotional mess who can no longer think or function!

Reading an email this way obviously takes longer, but at the end, you can still think and reason through things as opposed to having your head all over the place for hours or even days afterwards. The investment in time is worth it.

 

The cost

The good news is that it costs only €8.99.

This money will save you time, effort, and money and will help you avoid a lot of heartache and suffering.

 

No risk to you…

There is a 30 day money back guarantee with the 54 Practical Tips For Dealing With Psychopaths and Narcissists. If you find the information is not suitable, send me a note on the contact page and I will happily refund your money. That means you won't have to fight to get a refund!

 

The format

The 54 Practical Tips For Dealing With Psychopaths and Narcissists comes as a .pdf file which you can read on any computer, whether it's a PC or a Mac. (It is not a paper book.) Of course, if your ebook reader reads other formats, you can simply use your favorite program to change the .pdf into the required format.

 

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